Changing Your Life Means Choosing Different Personality Structures

Changing Our Life Means Choosing Different Personality Structures

I had a very penetrating thought during today’s Skype session with Kris [that wonderful Source speaking through Serge J, Grandbois here in Toronto, ON, Canada, [CMI3-5].

Someone comes to us with an ‘issue’ they want to change in their lives. What we are really talking about here is changing our personality structure. This is how we create our experienced reality, by creating – and recreating – ourselves [the selves we want to express in any given situation].

After all, it is exactly and precisely this expressed Personhood – our choices about our beingness – the currently expressed aspects of our personality – this is what is reflected and confirmed and mirrored in the realities we experience with our senses in this dimension.

‘Who I think I am’ and ‘How I think the world works’, are the most basic beliefs and the most powerful reality-creation mechanisms we use. Altering these beliefs in the most minute ways changes everything about our experienced reality in a twinkling. [try it, I dare you!]

Getting back to our main idea, the World is primarily a reflection of our expressed personality structures in the present now. [the whole self is represented, of course, but mostly in the bushes, the scenery or background, ‘the very air we breath’, as they say]

This can be enormously empowering to understand because we are all marvelously adept already at choosing and adapting various aspects of our personality structure. It is a natural part of being human. The ‘me’ that works at the bank in the morning is quite a different creature than the ‘me’ who may enjoy several glasses of wine – and occasionally other diversions – in the evenings [perfectly legal in all provinces - and most states ;]

I am quite adept at choosing which aspects of my overall personality I express in any given situation, as you are! I do not treat my boss at work with my ‘hot and horny’ aspects, just as I do not treat my lover at home like a boss [except when we want to of course ;]

And all of those aspects are utterly absent when I am with my darling nieces and nephews, or walking in the forest with my dogs, or cooking garlic and onions… I have personality aspects galore to suit any possible situation or circumstance. [a veritable treasure trove of aspects to choose from...]

What do we mean when we talk about different aspects of our personality? … Ok, let’s say we’ve already had ‘a couple’ and perhaps even become physically friendly with someone very charming and attractive. Think about the ‘you’ that instantly and effortlessly pops into the foreground when the pizza guy rings the doorbell. [nobody can put their pants on and grab their wallet like you can...]

This instantaneous change is our wider self automatically bringing a suitable aspect to the fore of our personality to suit the emergent circumstances. The ‘you’ that answers the door and tips the delivery guy a few bucks, is nowhere near the ‘you’ that was kissing and feeling somebody ‘ready and willing’ a few moments before… And rightly so! We are masters of applying suitable psychological aspects of ourselves to the continually emerging conditions and circumstances of our lives.

At some level, some part of you is charged with managing all this on your behalf… it’s its job. Let’s call it the ‘Switcher of Personality Aspects’.

This means that all of us, all the humans on the planet, are innate masters of ‘switching-up’ our personality structures as needed, to meet the many multiple different circumstances of life. So why have we forgotten the knack of applying this powerful psychological agility to whatever issues we are challenging ourselves with?

Let’s say my psychological stance regarding one person is one of expected enjoyment, trust, and openness about my thoughts and feelings. My stance with another person might be guarded, watchful and even judgmental. These are simply different aspects of my personality structure being expressed. [key point, I am in charge of which of these aspects are being expressed at any given moment]

Revealingly, if I were to do a ‘switch-up’ and express ‘openness’ and ‘trust’ with my boss, or even express ‘watchful judgement’ with my lover for that matter, the resulting experiences – the outcomes – would be quite different. Not because our dear friends around us have changed, but because we have changed the aspects of our personality with with we are engaging them.

Who knew! We can ‘change channels’ in our realities just by changing our mood!

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Illustration: This sad little chart I won’t even stigmatize by identifying the source.

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